Bri Rubin
Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) Trainee & Professional Clinical Counselor (PCC) Trainee serving clients via Telehealth across California
Natural State Wellness Foundation
Supervised by Martena Rachel Wilson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist LMFT #133052
Third-year graduate student at California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) MA in Counseling Psychology, Concentration Expressive Arts Therapy.
I work with clients who—motivated by inspiration, desperation, or both—are ready for real change.
Are you craving a space where you can stop censoring yourself and express what you really think and feel? Therapy can be a truly transformative experience, but it requires feeling safe enough to be fully open and honest. My role is to meet you exactly where you are, while standing beside you as an ally as you grow into the healthiest, happiest version of yourself.
My clients are smart, creative, growth-minded individuals and couples from all walks of life. My specialties include relationship challenges, life transitions, sexuality, women's issues, grief, neurodivergence, and self-sabotage.
My approach is integrative, relational, strengths-based, and trauma-informed, drawing from Expressive Arts, CBT, Gestalt, EFT, IPNB, and more. Over a decade of teaching and practicing yoga grounds my work in mindfulness and somatic awareness.
I offer compassionate, practical support that respects your uniqueness. Beyond my clinical work, I've supported hundreds of individuals and couples using Human Design and the Enneagram—frameworks for understanding individual differences and relationship dynamics. These experiences have shown me that no approach is one-size-fits-all. Our work will be collaborative and guided by your goals.
Therapy doesn’t have to feel like a chore. Deep inner work can be uncomfortable, but I’m here to show you that it’s not only worth it for the results—the process itself can actually be a lot of fun!
If it feels like we might be a fit, please reach out. It would be an honor and pleasure to support you as you experiment with new ways of seeing and being, and build a life you genuinely love.
Therapeutic Approaches
These are a few of the approaches I may draw from in our work together. Nothing is mandatory—we’ll collaborate to find what feels most resonant and helpful to you.
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Expressive Arts Therapy (EXA) uses art, movement, music, writing, and play as vehicles for healing and growth. The arts can support regulation and relaxation, help us process experiences, and open up new ways of seeing and expressing what words alone can’t reach. No artistic experience needed. Learn more here.
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) helps us recognize cycles of thought and behavior that contribute to distress and keep us stuck. Together, we examine our assumptions, test them against our experiences, and experiment with different ways of responding. This process can help reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression, support emotional regulation, and build flexibility as we take practical steps toward our goals.
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Rooted in Buddhist contemplative traditions, mindfulness-based therapy cultivates our capacity to observe our present-moment experience without judgment. We practice staying present with thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations as they arise, developing a more accepting and compassionate relationship with ourselves.
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is grounded in attachment theory and is particularly useful in relational work and couples therapy. When we feel disconnected, threatened, or overwhelmed, we can become caught in reactions that hurt our relationships and create further distance. In EFT, we identify the cycle as our common enemy, rather than seeing each other as the problem. We learn to recognize the vulnerable emotions and needs beneath our attacks or defenses and take responsibility for expressing them without blame, inviting understanding, compassion, and deeper intimacy and connection.
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Somatic therapy is a broad umbrella term for approaches that recognize that our psychological and emotional lives are inseparable from our physical bodies. We experience life through our bodies, yet many of us have learned to ignore, override, or disconnect from what we feel physically. Somatic work makes space for this often-overlooked dimension of experience.
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Gestalt therapy is grounded in the theory of organismic self-regulation: the premise that we have an innate capacity to recognize and effectively respond to our needs in the present moment. Conditioned beliefs, patterns and protective strategies can interrupt this process, driving us to behave in ways that are ineffective and unhelpful. The therapeutic relationship becomes a laboratory where we can observe and understand these patterns as they emerge in real time. Together, we create experiments to deepen awareness, explore what interrupts our presence, and restore greater access to our natural capacity for self-regulation and wellbeing.
Theoretical Frameworks and Philosophies
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Humanistic Psychology is grounded in the recognition that every person has inherent worth, agency, and the capacity for growth. Rather than viewing people primarily through the lens of pathology or dysfunction, this perspective emphasizes our natural drive toward authenticity, meaning, connection, and self-actualization.
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Attachment Theory explores how our earliest relationships shape our expectations of love, safety, and connection. These experiences can influence how we navigate intimacy, vulnerability, and conflict throughout adulthood. By understanding our attachment patterns, we can develop greater awareness of our relational needs, recognize protective strategies that no longer serve us, and cultivate healthier, more secure connections.
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Family Systems Theory views the family as an interconnected system in which each person's experiences and behaviors influence the others. Rather than focusing exclusively on the individual, this framework explores the roles, expectations, boundaries, and patterns that develop within our relationships. These patterns are often passed down across generations, shaping how we communicate, manage conflict, and relate to ourselves and others. By bringing these dynamics into awareness, we can interrupt unhelpful cycles and create healthier ways of relating.
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Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) is an interdisciplinary framework that brings together neuroscience, developmental psychology, and attachment theory to understand how our experiences and relationships shape the brain and nervous system. An important concept within this framework is neuroplasticity: the brain's capacity to change and adapt throughout life. IPNB emphasizes integration: the process of bringing different aspects of ourselves into greater connection and coordination, supporting emotional regulation, resilience, and healthier relationships.
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Human Design (HD) offers a map for exploring individual differences, with an emphasis on experimentation over belief. Within this framework, your chart describes your innate strengths and sensitivities. It shows where you are more fixed in your ways, and where you are more receptive and vulnerable to environmental influence. It invites you to experiment with listening to your body and making decisions rooted in your own experience, rather than ideas about who you should be. This exploration can support self-acceptance, appreciation of our differences, and more effective ways of relating and communicating.
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Enneagram theory proposes that you have a personality, but you are not your personality. It views personality patterns as strategies that developed in childhood to protect you, some of which may now limit you or keep you stuck. By identifying and observing how these patterns operate on autopilot, we can begin to transcend our habitual assumptions and reactions, and expand beyond limiting self-concepts.
What I Can Help With
I work with clients who—motivated by inspiration, desperation, or both—are ready for real change.
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Communication difficulties and recurring conflict
Emotional disconnection and intimacy challenges
Differences in sexual desire and needs
Trust, jealousy, and insecurity
Infidelity
Navigating major decisions and life transitions
Strengthening friendship, connection, and partnership
Deepening sexual connection, pleasure, and satisfaction
Rekindling romance and passion
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Dating and romantic relationships
Attachment patterns
Breakups, heartbreak, and grief
Boundaries, people-pleasing, and codependency
Love Addiction
Family dynamics and interpersonal conflict
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Career changes and professional uncertainty
Relocation and adjusting to new environments
Major relationship changes
Identity shifts and changing priorities
Navigating uncertainty and important decisions
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Body image and self-esteem
Relationship with food and eating habits
Health, fitness, and weight-related goals
Sustainable lifestyle changes
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Exploring your relationship with alcohol or drugs
Reducing substance use or pursuing/maintaining sobriety
Understanding triggers and coping patterns
Navigating cravings and relapse prevention
Relationships and family dynamics affected by substance use
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Death of a loved one
Breakups, divorce, and relationship loss
Anticipatory grief
Ambiguous loss and unresolved grief
Finding meaning and adjusting to life after loss
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ADHD and executive functioning challenges
Sensitivity and overwhelm
Relationships and communication differences
Self-acceptance and navigating societal expectations
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Managing intense or overwhelming emotions
Identifying triggers and emotional patterns
Distress tolerance and healthy coping skills
Anger, irritability, and frustration
Building resilience and emotional flexibility
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Excessive worry, rumination, and overthinking
Persistent sadness, emptiness, or low motivation
Perfectionism and self-criticism
Stress, burnout, and emotional exhaustion
Social anxiety and performance anxiety
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Exploring pleasure and desire
Overcoming sexual shame, guilt, and insecurities
Sexual confidence and self-discovery
Communicating sexual needs, desires, and boundaries
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Processing meaningful and/or challenging experiences
Exploring shifts in identity, beliefs, or relationships
Integrating insights into everyday life
Grounding and emotional support following experiences
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Self-esteem, identity, and belonging
School stress
Anxiety and emotional overwhelm
Friendships, dating, and peer relationships
Family conflict and communication